There is such a thing as righteous anger, but we are rarely angry in a righteous way. Most of the time, human anger is unrighteous, selfish anger. This sinful anger creates a host of problems in our lives and hinders the work of the Holy Spirit in us. As James 1:19-20 says, “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.”
The devastating effects of sinful anger are vividly demonstrated in the story of Cain and Abel in Genesis 4. God accepted Abel’s sacrifice and not Cain’s because Abel’s sacrifice followed God’s pattern. Instead of taking responsibility for his mistake, Cain became “wroth, and his countenance fell.” God lovingly rebuked Cain for this response, but still he would not repent. Soon, Cain murdered his brother in anger.
When confronted again by God, Cain still refused to accept responsibility for what he had done, and was consequently judged by God. Cain’s sinful anger was, at its core, a rebellious refusal to take responsibility for his actions. We do not like to admit fault. Our pride is hurt when our failures are pointed out. It causes us to become upset, which in turn changes our mood and appearance. Instead of owning up to our mistakes, we shift the blame. We double down, become harsh and hurtful. We deny the diagnosis and lash out, attacking the messenger, even if the messenger was only providing the contrast that revealed our deficiencies.
The danger of anger is that if we never take responsibility for our sins, we will continually experience the judgment that sin brings. The answer is to humble ourselves, admit our faults, confess our sin, and receive God’s mercy. When your faults are pointed out, humble yourself and accept responsibility. Do not let anger destroy your relationship with God and others.